Anger and Forgiveness

"Don't let the sun go down with you still angry--get over it quickly."1

One of the biggest barriers to forgiving those who have hurt us is our unresolved hurt and anger. More often than not, where there is hurt, there is anger. Both need to be resolved.

Unresolved or buried anger is extremely destructive. This is why the Bible teaches us to resolve it as quickly as possible. Unless we do, it can turn into resentment, bitterness, hostility, and even rage if enough of it is bottled up for long enough. It is destructive to our physical, emotional and spiritual health. It is also very damaging to relationships and can lead to deep depression. Being angry in and of itself is not sinful. It is how we handle it--or fail to handle it--that is either right or wrong, creative or destructive. No matter what the other person does to me, my anger is always my issue and my responsibility. Nobody makes me angry without my permission.

Anger needs to be directed to its source and felt and expressed (not just talked about) in creative ways. Wherever possible it pays to express these feelings to the one who hurt us remembering always to "speak the truth in love."2 Where this isn't appropriate or possible, we can write out our feelings as David often did in the Psalms, read out loud what we have written, and then burn or throw away the copy. Or we can express these painful feelings to a trusted friend or counselor. Whatever we do we need to express them creatively and get them off our chest once and for all. This then clears the way for forgiveness; for as long as we nurse grudges and "sit" on our anger, we can never genuinely forgive anyone.

As Paul said, "Don't let the sun go down on your anger!" Don't sit on it. Don't deny it. Don't bury and don't repress it. Express it in healthy ways. And remember, what we fail to talk out creatively we will inevitably act out destructively in one way or another. For further help read, "Taming Your Anger" at: http://tinyurl.com/b439f .

Suggested prayer: "Dear God, when I feel angry, please help me to express it creatively without blaming others for my reaction. And help me always to speak the truth in love. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus' name, amen."

1. Paul, in Ephesians 4:26 (TLB)(NLT).

2. Ephesians 4:15.

BIBLE VERSE FOR THE DAY
“For God will bring every work into judgment, including every secret thing, whether good or evil” (Ecclesiastes 12:14 NKJV.)

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QUOTE FOR THE DAY
Apart from the “rewards” that people will give those that have left their scenes of authority, God will also bring their actions and inactions into judgment. - Bayo Afolaranmi
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PRAYER/ACTION FOR THE DAY
Pray that you will act your scene of authority well in a way that you will receive positive “rewards” from other people and God after you leave the scene.